Is it important to celebrate Valentine’s Day?

Is it important to celebrate Valentine’s Day?

On 14^th  Februrary, the aroma of love and passion will fill the air, as this day is celebrated as Valentine’s Day . The week leading to this day is filled with list of reminders making people conscious of their relationship status. This special day creates an aura of deep intimacy in their relationships as people prefer to speak the ‘language of love’.

The people who are single, this day turn out to be a day which reminds them of their loneliness which further fills their heart with a sense of being dejected. For those in relationship have created a mountain of anxiety as they have lofty of expectations from their partners. They vigorously wait for grand gestures, special dinners, surprise gifts and romantic locales coming from their valentine.

My question is: do we really need special days to declare or publicize our love? Shouldn’t we love each other every day? I once asked my friend-what she feels about Valentine’s Day. She said for her celebrating love once a year is not something that grabs her attention and interest anymore. She feels love is more about how your man makes you feel throughout the year. It’s more about how much loving, caring, understanding and considerate he is throughout the year. Making someone your queen for one day and taking all her efforts to make your house a cosy home for granted is not what love advertises.

For many this is a day of ‘love’ but I feel it is more about “appreciating” someone who has sacrificed allot to be in your life. Expressing appreciation demonstrates mutual respect and value because it shows that you do acknowledge the efforts that one has put to make relationship beautiful and stronger. To maintain that eternal sweetness in your relationship, it is important to make other person know his/her value in your life.

 In a Utopian relationship, you bring out best in your partner which further makes your relationship stronger with time. If you have been together for a long time, we start taking each other for granted. With the passage of time we often start finding our relationship monotonous and unexciting. We don’t feel the need to say” i love you” daily but that doesn’t mean that their love is fading with time. The words ‘I love you’ are often substituted with emotive words like ‘message me once you reach office, did you have your food, drive carefully, come home soon etc. which hold a sea of affection and concern within it. The only thing that is making relationships humdrum is ‘lack of time and initiative’ for each other. There is a dire need of initiatives to make your partner feel appreciated and loved. 

We humans are professionals who are slaves of daily routines. It is Valentine’s Day that helps the couples to come out of their monotonous lives of waking up, going to office, and coming back tired, having food and then going back to sleep. Time flies too fast, and before we realise that weeks have blurred into months, it’s an end of whole year. We do know the value of life and the need to embrace people who are dear to us. Sometimes we just become so casual with things that we need some kind of push or opportunity to keep life spirited and vivacious. Valentine’s Day is a special day of making your special person feels ‘Special’. It helps you to rejuvenate your relationship by saying things which are often left unspoken, doing things which are left undone and enlightening your bond with a spark of novelty and freshness again.

What I personally feel is that Valentine’s Day may not be special for people who make their partners feel loved every single day. They are the ones who don’t need occasions to give surprises to their love. For them every day is Valentine’s Day. I would prefer he gets me flowers on any day when he thought of me with love, rather than waiting for Valentine’s Day when he may not feel like giving me. Love must be celebrated daily and any gesture that is done out of emotions is always valued than doing things on so called ‘special days’ out of pressure.

As a modern woman, I personally don’t feel that it’s exclusively on men’s shoulders to be the catalyst for romance. Even women can make their men feel special; after all we talk about ‘Equality’.

The bottom line is, sometimes we do need reasons to come out of our daily routines and reimburse more into each other. One should feel privileged to have someone in life who not only makes your life more beautiful but makes you a ‘beautiful person’. Days shouldn’t matter if you believe in love and there can be nothing more beautiful than celebrating love. So guys, take out time to express your love and gratitude to that ‘special’ person of your life who is unconditionally there for you.

Dedicated to my husband

 Dr. Ranbir Kaur
13 Feburary, 2020